Sweet dreams....

...........are made of this,

Who am I to disagree?

I travel the world and the seven seas

Everybody's looking for something

Some of them want to use you

Some of them want to get used by you

Some of them want to abuse you

Some of them want to be abused

Sweet dreams are made of this

Who am I to disagree?

I travel the world and the seven seas

Everybody's looking for something

Hold your head up, keep your head up, movin' on

Hold your head up, movin' on, keep your head up, movin' on

Hold your head up, movin' on, keep your head up, movin' on

Hold your head up, movin' on, keep your head up

Some of them want to use you

Some of them want to get used by you

Some of them want to abuse you

Some of them want to be abused...............
 

EURYTHMICS -



I love this song!  Perfect song for me right now. 

My dreams. 

My nocturnal dreams.

My daytime dreams.

Both are blending into one these days. 

I've always loved analyzing dreams.  I was trained quite a bit in it during my university days.   A fantastic teacher I had was fascinated with them.  I've now learnt to 'control' my dreams up to a certain point.  With practice, it's definitely something that can be done by anyone.

For example, when I wake up from a great dream, I can usually fall back asleep and continue the dream.  If I notice in which position I'm sleeping in when I wake up in the morning, all I have to do the night after is resume that same position and not only will the dream come back to me, I will also be able to continue it and to modify it.  Pretty cool stuff..... 

If you consciously give yourself a message often enough, you will dream about it.....  The answer to any of your questions is in your subconscious, by asking the question, you dream of your answer...the answer that is already within you.

This is all fine and dandy and even fun, but sometimes, the interpretation of those dreams can be tricky.  This is were the 'fun' part begins.

There is no major secret when it comes to dream analysis.  Know that your dreams belongs to you and to you alone and that you will not find the reason of your dream in a book.  Don't waste your money.  Your dreams are a reflection of what is happening in your life and in your subconscious level.....

So let's talk about my dreams and men in general.  You have all figured out my daytime dream about men by now I'm sure.  Yes, I don't need a partner but would like one.  They are simple daydreams, usually occurring when I'm bored or when I'm doing a repetitive task (such as exercising at the gym).

However, my night time dreams, the one reflecting my deeper level of consciousness is a bit less direct and certainly not as organized.

To begin with, if you are amongst those that do NOT remember your dreams, do not fret.  It is normal NOT to remember them.  That being said, it is NOT abnormal to remember your dreams, it is just less common.

I remember one dream on most nights.  Notice that I say one dream.  Everyone dreams (even if we don't remember them).  We dream several dreams every night and the dreams, even if they don't feel so short, are usually just a few seconds long.....

I have spent the last several days deep in thought and analyzing my dreams.  They are all men related (imagine that).

I swear, I have now officially heard it all from men (PMrR1's decision to run the other way despite our good connection and friendship was the cherry on top).

During my waking hours, I have therefore decided to stop dating.  However, my subconscious obviously does not agree with me.  I am dreaming about men.  I will spare you the details of the dreams and only offer you the results of my analysis.

Through my many men-related dreams, I have concluded that at the end of June, I will contact PMrR1 one more time.  I am not expecting anything out of this except to perhaps try to understand why he is running away.  I will not try to pursue a friendship with him unless he can convince me otherwise.  We were already establishing a friendship and because of our attraction to each other, a friend only relationship will not work.  I need to reach out to him one more time though.  That is very clear in my subconscious.....in my dreams.

The decision to stop dating is causing quite a panic at a subconscious level because that is ALL I dream about.  I'm not panicking about it in my daytime though.  However, because it is a part of me, I must respect my subconscious and pay attention to my dreams.  In doing so, the root of me feeling anxious about dating may be resolved. 

What is it about my dreams that is making me think twice about my decision NOT to date anymore?  As soon as I made the decision to stop dating, I dream of pure bliss with men.  Not sexual energy, but happiness.  Friendly, comfortable, comforting and loving dreams, all with a man.   In most dreams, I don't recognize the man.  Even if I would though, it doesn't mean that I would reach this happiness with this particular man.  The man in my dreams does not represent THE man, it represents A man.....

So what are those dreams telling me?  I think they are telling me to not give up.  I think they are telling me that the feeling that I was seeking in my daydreams can actually become reality even if I am fighting them and don't want to give them any more chance in 'real life'.

I am comfortable with that analysis.  Any good specialist in dream analysis will always tell you that there is rarely a 'right' answer to your interpretation.  What the dreamer thinks the dream means, is usually the right answer. 

Thing is, the thought that perhaps I should give dating another chance is now causing panic in my 'real life'.  I was comfortable slowly but surely pushing myself back into my comfort zone.  It was happening.....  The comfort of staying home, not going out, knitting, watching a bit of television and just existing in my own space.  There is nothing wrong with that and I was feeling quite comfortable thank you very much......  but comfortable on a conscious level and not at a subconscious one.....

Not being comfortable at a subconscious level is causing anxiety.  I remember those dreams during the daytime and thus it throws me off balance and causes anxiety during my daytime.

I've analyzed the fact that I may be analyzing too much (lol).  Sometimes a dream is just a dream (or like Freud once said 'sometimes a cigar is just a cigar'), but you don't really expect me NOT to analyze the dreams do you?  You know me too well for that by now.....

So that you all don't think that I'm losing my mind, let me reassure you that I don't analyze 99% of my dreams.  Then again, my dreams are usually not men related.  They just happened to become men related when I consciously decided to stop dating them..... 

So there you have it.  The Eurythmics were probably dealing with the same men I've been dating (ha).  My sweet dreams.....they are made of these.  Who am I to disagree?  I travel the world and the seven seas in my dreams.  Everybody's looking for something.  Yes, some of them want to use you, some of them want to be used by you, some of them want to abuse you, some of them want to be abused....  (read my previous blogs if you don't believe me with this).......

BUT......

.....some of them want to love you and be loved by you......

Will I ever find him? 

Do I have enough energy left in me to pursue?

I know that I cannot handle the roller coaster of emotions any longer....

Do I take that chance......

....'to sleep, perchance to dream'.....awake or asleep.....

.....peacefully.....


Signed yours truly, trying to figure out the fighting between her conscious and subconscious levels....

SSW :(


P.S.  'Holding my head up, keeping my head up and moving on......'

.......or at least trying to.....

"Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise."
(Sigmund Freud)