Let's go out together.....but first, give me a bit more time online to see who else is there. Is there anyone better? Perhaps better suited? Maybe more handsome or prettier....a prince or princess waiting to meet us?
Indeed, the dating world has the potential to never end! Could you freaken imagine? I'd lose my mind and would definitely quit dating and do my own thing forever instead of having to put myself through perpetual dating.
That being said, how do you know when to stop? I guess at one point you have got to put your foot down and make a decision. It doesn't mean that you will be with that person for the rest of your life but it does mean that you will make the decision to attempt a relationship with one person.
The trick lies in both parties wanting to put their foot down together. One may be ready to take the leap but not the other one.....
With PMrR1 and PMrR2, I learnt a big lesson. Although they were both introduced to me more or less at the same time, I found it difficult for a short time. Thankfully it was indeed a short time and PMrR1 did stand out pretty quickly. Now, as much as possible, I would like to only date one person at a time and get to know him. That being said though, I will NOT wait around if the other person does not want exclusivity.
I don't know if PMrR1 is ready to take the leap..... My instinct is saying he is not for the simple reason that he has not dated as much as I have. I am willing to wait for the next couple of weeks and see what happens over our next few dates. I'm not sure when or even if the 'exclusivity' talk will ever occur but I will give it time and be patient.
I'm not meeting new people, not dating anyone else and things are quiet on that front. That being said, I'm super busy with work and with my son so it's all good.
It's weird, it feels like I'm waiting around for something..... Patience is the name of the game..... I have to find it somewhere....*sigh*. I'll figure it out! Right?
Signed a very patient (for now) SSW :)
After a few dates, I would delicately address the whole question of the online dating and feel him out before making any decisions... you want to protect yourself from being hurt but keep in mind that calling it quits means that you might be putting something to an end that could be really good... give it some time and wait and see... you may be at a slightly different point but not that far apart. My husband told me he wasn't ready for an exclusive relationship but when it really came down to it, he was always on the phone or chatting with me. I pointed that out about 6 weeks later and he then realized that I had really grown on him and he agreed that maybe he was willing go there... he just didn't know that he had found a gem at the time of the discussion but over time, he knew... So don't end something meaningful too quickly... because it may not be accessible later... BE PATIENT... remember, long term relationship have the word "long" in it... if its meant to be, its worth waiting for. or as someone close to you might say... Rome wasn't built in a day ;)
ReplyDeleteI saw him again today and it did not feel like the right time to bring it up. I'll know when it is. It is delicate and I am trying very hard to take it one day at a time and to be patient! :)
ReplyDeleteRome was indeed not built in one day!?
Thank you for your comment...
SSW :)
I just re read your comment. If PMrR1 does not want exclusivity immediately, it doesn't mean that I would end it with him, it just means that I won't wait around and NOT date anyone else while he does......
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