'This is a TEST, this is ONLY a test'

I heard from Mr 2G2BT last night.  We made plans to see each other at the end of the week.  We chatted about this and that and then, out of the blue, he stated 'I think it will be time to go out on a date soon'. 

I wasn't sure what he meant by that.  I replied 'what have we been doing the last few outings, weren't those dates'?  He replied, 'nahhhh, we can do better than that'!  Hmmmm, this begs the question.....' What the hell is he talking about'??!!

The story gets better.  I got an email today.  Mr 2G2BT wants to go see a sporting event with me again.  I said sure, that sounds great.  Of course, still thinking about last night's comment I asked 'will this be a date'?  To which he replied, 'no, it's not a date'!!??

After laughing by myself for a bit, I thought it would be wise to reply that I was looking forward to our outing, date or not. 

Does it really matter what we call it?  However, this comment does have me wondering.  Is this just an official thing in his mind?  Is this some sort of code that he is trying to tell me?  That if we call it a date that we may move it at another level? 

I've asked two men in my life their thoughts on this.  One is a co-worker and the other one is my brother.  They both replied it's sexually related.   I've asked one female co-worker and she just smiled at me and said 'well what do you think'?  But then after a minute or two she said, 'but you never know'?! 

All and all this has me wondering about labels?  An outing, a meeting, a greet, a get together, a hangout....are these just other words we use to precede the elusive DATE!  

Ladies and gentlemen 'this is a TEST, this is ONLY a test', no need to worry about the dates yet.....  let's just hang out for awhile and see.  Dates to follow.....maybe!?  *Sigh*  Dating (or trying to date) is definitely more complicated nowadays....

Can you all imagine the level of analysis that will occur with me when we do decide to call it dating??  HA!  

I think Mr 2G2BT or another Mr, or a woman or SOMEONE should have warned me that I wasn't dating yet!!!  Apparently I've been in a non-dating world for some time now and nobody told me?  Heck I may have to reorganize my whole filing system in my brain!!   HAHA!  Don't worry, I won't do that to you nor to myself for that matter.  The E-T files are just starting to accept the M file.  Could you imagine the chaos that would occur with another file up there in my head?

Wanting a no-nonsense, straight up and in your face opinion, I decided to text my Mr Friend.  We've been friends for about 10  years now.  He's a good man, not dating material for me but nevertheless, we've been sometimes just texting, going out for a drink or dinner on and off for years now.  I suspect he will always be in my life in one way or another but just as a Mr Friend. 

Knowing that I would get an extremely direct answer from him, I asked him what he thought of Mr 2G2BT's comment about our non-dating status as of yet.  Mr Friend came right out and told me.  He wants sex. 

In fact, Mr Friend was surprised that Mr 2G2BT lasted for almost 5 outings without sex.   Mr Friend's dating code is only 3 dates (and yes, he calls them dates).  Mr Friend is not necessarily on the same wavelength as me as to what he is searching for in a partner.  Now you know why we have never dated.....

For the record, Mr Friend is going to try joining me in the online dating world soon.  After our conversation, he is now quite worried that things have changed in terms of dating rules!!??   

I'm soooo confused!  What in the world?  What rules?  No one told me about rules?? 

I think it depends on what we are all looking for.... At least I hope that it depends on what we are looking for... YIKES!!  I feel lost in my dating (or non-dating) world!  Heck I don't even know what world I'm in now!

I know for a fact that Mr 2G2BT is way too intelligent to think that I'm so gullible as to fall for calling an outing a 'date' as being equal to sex.  Perhaps he will sweep me off my feet in a beautiful and romantic outing and call it a date (as I close my Harlequin Romance book)? 

**Note that I don't read Harlequin Romance books.  I try to stay away from romance as much as possible..... I am waaaay too cynical for romance.  If and that is a heck of a big IF this Mr 2G2BT turns out to be a romantic (because in my experience men are not), I will eat my words and I will admit to being wrong to you on my blog.

A sweet and kind co-worker, a reader of my blog asked me the other day what would happen if I developed a relationship with someone and he then found out that I had blogged about him.  The thought had already crossed my mind. 

Two answers to that.  Firstly, I am not saying anything wrong about any of them (just telling the truth) and I'm not going into super duper intimate details.  No Shades of Grey in this blog but rather just shades of whatever is happening up there.....(yes there)!  Secondly, if ever I do end up in  a relationship, I like to think that he will be secure enough to handle this blog. 

On the other hand, perhaps after he has read the entries to this blog, he will run the other way so far that I'll never see him again... HA!

Nevertheless, the blog remains an outlet for ME (remember, ME?  She is my perfect partner....and should always remain so).  I feel good about writing and frankly, although I love having readers and love seeing comments and followers, the writing alone is therapeutic and quite relaxing. 

So after being in a series of tests, outings, hang outs, meets etc... I'm about to enter the elusive dating world!  I think?

And here I thought I was blogging about dating.  Boy did I have it wrong!

Signed:  single, dateless and a tad confused about her dating or non-dating status,

SSW :)

More and more, I think I need this book.....