Understanding the understated....

You will all be very pleased with me.  I have not overly over analyzed, I have not ran the other way and I'm cautiously smiling tonight!  Yes of course I'm talking about my evening last night Mr 2G2BT.

We had an 'outing'.  Or was it a 'meeting' or a 'hang out'?  Either way, it wasn't a date.  We went out to our local university level sports event, (I enjoyed it immensely by the way) where we sat like university kids on a hard bench and cheered for the home team.  We also talked a lot.

In the middle of the game, at no particular meaningful time, Mr 2G2BT said 'I would really like to cook dinner for you on Thursday, would you like that?'  He surprised me and I just stared (duh).  He then said, 'Thursday is the 14th.'  He was looking at me with a little smile on his face.  I then asked 'will this be a date'?  To which he replied, 'why yes it will be a date!'  I smiled back at him and said 'so are you saying that our first day will be on Valentine's day?'  And of course he replied, 'yes it will be.'

Last week sometime in an email exchange, I had told Mr 2G2BT in passing that I wasn't a big fan of Valentine's day.  I didn't offer an explanation and he did not comment on it.  So last night, after this little exchange I said 'you are being romantic aren't you.'  To which he giggled and replied 'well if that is what you think, sure I am.'  We both laughed.

Mr 2G2BT wasn't sure how I would react to a dinner invite for Valentine's day so he approached it carefully.  I have to say that this understated romantic gesture of having our first 'official' date on Valentine's day is quite nice.  It has made me smile, but.......

I'm working really hard at not thinking ahead.  Is Mr 2G2BT expecting anything else out of this date on Valentine's day?  Will he be a true romantic and leave it at that?  Or is he calling it a date because he thinks that it will equal something else?

I am not ready to eat my words yet and to tell you all that I was wrong and that romance is alive and well and that it truly exists.  Ok, fine, I really liked the way he asked me, the place he asked me and especially that he is making the 'first' date on Valentine's and that he did not come out and state the obvious to me that Thursday the 14th of February is indeed Valentine's day.  Yes, for a man to be truly romantic in my eyes, that is how he should do it....just like he did!  I don't need a big show of flowers and chocolates and everything else (although diamonds are always good - HA)!  That being said though, let's just see what this next week will bring for me in terms of understanding the reason behind this understated romantic gesture of his. 

We also planned ahead for next weekend where Mr 2G2BT will be celebrating his birthday.  We have two outings next week......  Our first and second date coinciding on Valentine's day and on his birthday. 

Mr 2G2BT is also talking about the future.  He is talking about my birthday which is in the summer months.  He wants to teach me how to golf, which, if you live in my part of the world, is not really on anyone's mind in the frigid cold weather and tons of snow.  In fact, Mr 2G2BT is scaring the cr*p out of me. 

On the other hand, he seems to know enough to give me space.  Or maybe he's the one that needs the space?  We are both alone tonight, on a Saturday night, in our respective homes.  I talked about rules of dating in my last entry.  What are the rules pertaining to how often you see the person that you are starting to know and possibly date? 

I wasn't sure on the protocol pertaining to the amount of time spent with someone that you are just starting to know.  I admit that I've usually dove right in.  With Mr Coach for example in my entry 'The Big D'  I did a lot of dating in very few days.  With Mr 2G2BT, I am restraining myself from seeing him more often even though I like his company.  Why is that?  Maybe I learned a lesson with Mr Coach? 

I decided to do a quick google search on the topic of how often you should go out with someone new in your life.  On the most part, from what I have read, many are advocating that 'whatever feels good' is the way to go.  More specifically though, some say once a week at first then you move up to a couple of times per week and then you just increase your time.  Yet, others say that every second day is the best way to get to know them.

For the time being, I will not over think this.  I will just go with what feels comfortable.  Right now, alone in front of my fire place, writing this to you is indeed quite cozy thank you very much. 

I caught myself smiling to myself a few times today....  That also scares me....  My E-file is distraught.  In my experience, romance, understated or not, does not truly exist in its pure form...there is always a hidden reason behind it....  The E file has been telling me this for the last 24 hours but the M-file is doing her job.....  (See my entry 'The ET files' if you are confused).

I will not jump to conclusions, I will not over analyze and I will take it as it comes.  Talk about stepping out of my comfort zone.

As weird as it sounds, I can actually feel my M-file working up there (yes there)......

SSW :)