The day after the big V day I spent lots of time pondering the subject of love. I'm questioning the meaning of love but more importantly I'm wondering why I even bother to deal in the love game. Why am I thinking about it? Why the heck am I trying to find it? Why am I putting myself through this? Basically, because it's love. We all need love........right?
I learnt two big lessons today. Well that's not true, I didn't learn anything, I already knew it, I just needed it to be pointed out to me I think. We forget the basic things sometimes.
The first lesson was at my work. A little child that I had never seen before was reacting badly and was refusing to cooperate. He was surrounded by a loving, caring and calm adult that was doing her best with him. The adult looked at me for help and I gladly helped out. I knew that the child didn't know me, had never seen me and that because of this that the odds of me succeeding in this intervention would be close to zero. I got down to his level with a great big smile on my face and said hi to him. Long story short, he did what he had to do after I was able to reason with him. He then did something completely unexpected. He jumped in my arms and gave me the biggest and tightest hug I had ever had. I could feel his little arms shaking around my neck. Ok, so what is the lesson that I was reminded of with this? It is to love through a smile. Smile when you don't feel like smiling. Smile at someone who is not smiling. Smile at a stranger. Smile at someone who is stressed and please oh please smile at little children. They all need smiles. A smile can transmit love so powerfully that it can get you hugged like you've never been hugged before. Smiling can make you feel good too. It cures all kinds of ailments and will fool your brain chemistry to the point of changing your mood.
The second lesson that was conveyed to me today was that love can come in several shapes and forms. I was watching the end of our local news tonight and there was a story about a 90 year old man who used to drive the zamboni at his community ice rink. He retired along with his zamboni 15 years ago. A friend of the family, a younger man decided to restore the zamboni. He wanted to put a smile on his old friend's face. It took the younger man 7 years to restore the old ice resurfacing machine and to get it working again. Then, yesterday, on Valentine's day, he invited his 90 year old friend to come and resurface the ice with it. The older man was ecstatic. It brought a tear to my eye. His wife of 62 years was in the stands watching him (that brought a tear to my eyes also). At the end of the news segment, the two men thanked each other. They were both so happy. The elderly man is dying of cancer and the younger man wanted to put a smile on his face. It took him 7 years but he did it. Now isn't that love!!?? Pure love!
You are all wondering what the heck I'm talking about aren't you? HAHA!
You all want to know what happened with Mr 2G2BT last night! Cupid's arrow hit the zamboni fixer upper and the elderly man, it hit the little boy today when I smiled at him and I've concluded that it did hit me also but not in my heart (it's not that easy).
Cupid's arrow hit me in my thoughts, in my brain (the files are all stunned right now) and in my reasoning. Cupid made me remember that love is present in many many shapes and forms. Cupid made me remember to 'collect' on the love that is all around me. The several types of love are all important and necessary in everyone's life. Smile, enjoy the feel good stories about love and zambonis and yes, continue to hope and to search for the love that may one day penetrate your heart with cupid's arrow.....
Last night's evening was wonderful. There were flowers, candles, music, valentine cards to each other, food, chocolates, wine and lots of conversation between two new friends. The evening was calmly and reassuringly filled with understated romance yet not overbearingly so.
Does romance in its' pure form exist? Romance and respect of the other's wishes exists of that I'm sure. Romance in it's pure form.... I have never seen it yet...
Mr 2G2BT is charming, respectful, intelligent, funny, knowledgeable and an excellent communicator.
I'm still not ready to say that cupid has hit my heart but the arrow did hit the files and the Experience file is much quieter tonight. The Trust file is wide awake and paying attention and the Mitigation file feels like she is doing her job. Now if that is not a step in the right direction I don't know what is.
Mr 2G2BT and I have decided to continue seeing other people while seeing each other. We have not known each other for very long and we agree that it's ok to date others for now. I feel good about that.
For the most part, everything is calm but some bells are ringing once in awhile. Again, I'm pretty sure they are fake. They are not loud bells but they are still present and bugging me....
I take a deep breath, I keep busy, I remain patient and I remember to notice that love is all around me in many shapes and forms....
SSW :)
Sounds like a wonderful evening... and you're right, love is everywhere and we need to slow down and look around and find the love that surrounds us. When my daughter was very young, she had brought me a daisy and was amazed at how beautiful it was and how much she loved it. I realized that day the importance of taking the time to really look at life and what surrounds us and appreciate all that we have. I missed the story about the zamboni... but found love this week... not because of the efforts made by my husband on Valentine's day (although very much appreciated) but by the fact that despite the cold and his illness, he wanted to keep the driveway clean so I wouldn't get stuck in the snow and be late for work... for loading the dishwasher... for appreciating me, despite my flaws. I think that's what love is all about.
ReplyDeleteI think that you, too, will find all that... the romance is nice and the butterflies and fireworks are great... but eventually, all of that fizzles out, but the friendship, the trust, the tenderness, the communication and the unspoken is so so important... and when you find it, you will know... until then, enjoy your time with the people you meet.
Thank you! Those are beautiful stories of love. The little things! We must remember to notice them and feel them. When Mr 2G2BT picked me up to dinner, it was very snowy outside and the roads were terrible (I cabbed it back home). I said to him that I should have taken a cab to his place. He simply smiled at me and said 'but then I would not have had the pleasure of picking you up'. Isn't that nice? It made me smile... The little simple things are so important.....
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SSW :)