Plan B

I've had several comments in the past little while about re-thinking my decision to try and find someone on a dating site.  It was suggested to me by some readers and by some friends that perhaps I should expand my search to some interest groups or other activities.

Well, I'm here to discuss these options with you.  Coincidentally this week, a friend asked me through social media if I was willing to meet someone she knew that worked with her husband.  Sure I said, why not?  So, through her, I met this man.  To make a long story very short, it didn't work out.  I did not feel comfortable adding him as a friend to this social media and thus giving him access to my personal info including all of my pictures.  He didn't agree and proceeded to call me childish.  So I pouted, stomped my feet and blocked him! Haha! 

Seriously though, I offered him the opportunity to communicate through email only until we got to know a bit about each other.  I also shared with him my thoughts on safety issues for a single woman.  This is his loss and it's no big deal.  The referring friend was mortified by his behavior.  As it turns out, I just noticed now, that in the space of about 30 minutes of exchanging emails with him a few days ago, that he had lied to me.  He told me that he was not on a dating site but lo and behold, I found him.  He has been on the site for quite some time.... My community is really small......

Next.... 

As you all know, I've been going to the gym on a regular basis.  When you go to a same place regularly at around the same time every day, you meet up with the same people.  I've discovered that this could be an interesting place to meet someone.  Funny enough, I spotted Mr Exercise again today.  Now everytime I'm the first on the exercise machines, Mr Exercise will come and choose the machine next to me.   Today, he was the first on the machines so yes, you guessed it, I picked the one next to him.  We exchanged a smile and then basically ignored each other (lol).  I have no idea if Mr Exercise is married or heterosexual or if he is interested at all, but it does pass the time on the exercise machine now doesn't it?  Bottom line, it's an opportunity and perhaps a possibility?

There are several other opportunities at that place.  Mr Iron, Mr Body Builder, Mr Trying-to-be-a-body-builder, Mr Runner, Mr Trying-to-get-in-shape, Mr Puffed-out-chest etc.....  All of them are real and are more or less always at the gym at the same time as me.  So yes, the gym is a good place for meeting new people. 

There is also the library.  Now my time is limited for the library but it is a point of interest for me.  I have thought of joining a book club but the book clubs that I know of are all work related.  I need to find a new one.  Mental note to find one soon.

Another avenue are my friends.  Most of them are keeping an eye out for me, waiting to find a single man and to pounce on the poor guy! ;)

There are bars and such but those are not really my scene.  I would like to take dance lessons but for that, you need a regular dance partner (I was told it is better to have someone with you to take the course).

We have the Running Room (a sports store) that also has regular outside running sessions with a variety of people during the week.  This is something that I may look into in the spring.  It was also suggested to me that I should start hanging around arenas.  I had an image of me sitting on a cold bench, alone in an arena trying to pick up single hockey dads.....haha!  Not a pretty image and if it's my last resort, well then I shall remain single :)

An option that I've been toying with is taking a course....  Perhaps that would be a good avenue for me.  I just need to not only figure out the course (which could be easy enough to do) but to especially find the time for this said course.

I have my date with Mr 2G2BT lined up for tomorrow and as of yet, he has not cancelled.  I'm a bit surprised at that actually....

I also have several other dates lined up for the weekend and for next week.  Remember my decision to date more than one at the same time?  Well it's about to happen....  We shall see how that goes....

I have had one outing cancelled due to weather issues this week.  We've had some wild winter weather in my area and cancellations of many activities and some dates are bound to happen.

So there you have it.  My Plan B in action if my Plan A (the dating site) doesn't work.  Actually, it's more of a Plan B that is working along with Plan A.  Who knows what will happen with both Plans in the works!

To clarify, I am not always thinking of meeting someone.  In fact, on most days, I don't even think of my 'singlehood'.  Perhaps that is the problem.  I need to pay more attention to what, or rather, to whom is out there!!

Oh yes, I get frustrated and bummed out and disappointed and such but please be reassured that I don't dwell on it (I just blog about it - HA!).  The way I look at it, I may as well put myself out there and really give it a try at all levels.  No regrets, no holding back, just honestly trying....

If you, my dear readers, can think of another place where I can meet someone, please feel free!  An add on to my Plan B perhaps?  Or maybe something completely different?  After all, after A and B, there are 24 other letters in the alphabet.....

Yours in high hopes that I don't get to Plan Z

SSW :)