Theme week!?

Two entries ago, I talked about Mr Podiatrist and his foot fetish.  Little did I know that this would turn into theme week for me.   I kid you not that I have had two other foot fetish men contact me.  I'm seriously starting to wonder if someone is playing a joke on me......

It got me thinking though.  One of those gentlemen, Mr Happy Feet was very concerned with what I knew about foot fetishes.  Well little did he know that I had just made some research on it for my blog.  For a split second I thought of giving him the link ......

I was curious to see why it was so important for him to know what I knew about this interest of his.  I told him the little that I did know and much to my surprise, he didn't care at all about the size or the condition of the feet.  No, there's a whole different category of feet lovers out there and they want to be walked on.  What an education for me. 

I had actually heard about this before and of course was interested as to what would make someone want that?  Again, I really don't care what you like or what turns you on but if you are talking to me about it, I will ask questions and I'm going to want to learn.

I exchanged a few emails with Mr Happy Feet and as it turns out, he calls himself a gentle caring man and he is sick and tired of having women take advantage of his good nature.  Now, not to be overly mean here but this does beg the comment......'Mr Happy Feet is tired of having women walk all over him'!  (HA).

I did ask him on which part of his body he liked to be walked on and he said absolutely anywhere.  That the pressure was great, the feeling of being walked on was great and the shoes, oh the shoes (I could almost hear him gasp out of excitement through his email) were terrific.  The view he had of the ladies when he was being walked on was also exciting he stated (ahem).

*sigh*.  Where do I begin?  If this man would have introduced himself  in a 'normal' (for lack of a better word) fashion, I would have continued emailing him.  He seemed nice enough, looked good in his pictures, had a sense of humour, was educated etc...  But as it stood, he laid all of his cards on the table and this in turn made me fold and leave the game.  Walking all over a man, literally and figuratively is not my thing.  No judgement on my part, just not my thing.  I did make a point of asking him though if the getting-walked-on part was what he was looking for the most.  He replied that it was not, but that it was a very important element.  One that eventually had to be developed in his relationship.

I can't help but wonder if he has the right way of approaching this or not though.  If everyone decided to lay their cards on the table right away, what would happen?  If Mr Handsome would have told me from the get go that he was depressed and that he did not know what he wanted, would I have bothered even trying?  If Mr Coach would have stated that he had some anger issues and that he liked to control people, would I have gone out with him for two weeks?  If I would say from the get go 'I'm probably not going to trust you', would it work?  No of course it wouldn't work.

Each and everyone one of us daters would have every weekend free, the internet dating websites would be empty and more importantly, where would I get my material for my blog?  ;)

There's obviously a fine balance between total honesty and holding back.  This internet dating thing has been called a game and not to be cynical but it seems that we need to play the game very carefully so that we don't get burnt or stepped on (sorry, again I couldn't resist). 

Is Mr Happy Feet being too direct in his approach?  Would I have been disappointed if after 3-4 months of dating him that I would have realized that he wanted me to walk on him?  I seriously doubt that he would have lasted that long without telling me but that is not the point.  I think that Mr Happy Feet took a gamble.  He is a perfectly nice person with a fetish and he took a gamble to bring it out into the open immediately.

Most of us try to remediate our 'issues'.   Whether we are single or not,  I think that we all have a problem that need to be considered at one point in our lives.  Some try to hide the issues, some lie about them, some don't even realize that they have them and some people, well they blog about them :)

How to approach a stranger is a continuous learning process.  Some are very direct, some are more cautious, some go too fast some go too slow, some lie to others and more importantly lie to themselves.  However, the people I feel sorry for the most are the people that don't try at all.  They purposely isolate themselves for fear of dealing with their issues.

Many many people are caught up in their loneliness.  Whether this solitude be felt by someone who is already in a couple or someone that is single, loneliness can be kicked out of your lives for good by communicating and more importantly by trying....

I thoroughly admire Mr Happy Feet.  He put himself out there and he took a gamble with what he wanted!  He was honest about it and more importantly he did not lead any women on for months on end.  Who knows, he may very well meet someone who absolutely has the need to walk all over him.... I say this in all seriousness.  You truly never know who is out there waiting for you.... 

Do not be that person that isolates yourself out of fear of your own issues.  Read about your issues,  educate yourself on them, seek help, talk, grow, learn, blog, do what you want but at least do something!!

There are people in this world that want to be physically stepped on.  Most people would never ever accept to have someone step on them.  However, many allow their issues to weigh them down and to take control of their beings....

Let us all be in control of our beings and of our issues shall we?

SSW :)