Mr,Mrs, master, mistress

I listened to an interview this morning on my way to work.  The person being interviewed was a transgendered man.  He had a very interesting story.  What made it even more fascinating for me was that I know his family.  In my small community, it is really not surprising.

The interview got me thinking about the differences in our lives.   Some of us have issues that are more hidden than others.....

This woman, formerly man being interviewed this morning was living a double presentation of her life. Those were her words. She did not see herself as two people but as someone having to present herself in two different fashions, depending on who she was with.  For the public in general, she was a woman and for her family, she was still a man.  She was having more difficulties in having her family accept her changes.

In my 'To pee or not to pee' entry, I presented to you a few individuals that I met in the past.  I forgot to tell you about Mr Submissive.   Mr Sub was a very highly placed member of my community.   He was a major decision maker in his work.   It took him about 5 outings to admit to me that he was looking for a dominatrix, for someone to call mistress and for him to be a slave.   Now this was no fun and games for him, he was extremely serious, to the point of giving me (believe it or not) a paddle to slap his butt.  Yes, you read right.  During our 5th date, in a restaurant he gave me a paddle in a bag.  He then proceeded to tell me that he would not speak unless spoken to and that he would always seek out my permission to talk to anyone when we were together.  This happened about 9 or 10 years ago.  I have to admit that our dinner ended up being pretty quiet..... The only interruption was from me trying to control my giggling. 

Is any of you finding this hard to believe?  Why do I have to be the one meeting Mr Sub and Mr Happy Feet and Mr Podiatrist?  How about the stoned fireman and the one that wanted to pee on me?  Where the heck is Mr Right??  Anyways....just needed to throw this paragraph in!!

Now as stated before, I am very open minded, but in my defence,  Mr Submissive's request came out of nowhere.  I wasn't laughing at him, but I was quite uncomfortable thus causing the giggling.   He also wanted to serve me, do my laundry, run my errands, etc.  You want to talk temptation?!   Ha!

I'm all for fun and games in a couple. I am open minded and what happens behind closed doors is up to the couple. I was not and am still not ready to become a dominatrix, even if I would have 'seriously studied' the subject as Mr Submissive had suggested.

Being educated in and also working in the people field, I did look up the world of sub-dom though.  I am far from being an expert on the subject but what I did read about it back then was fascinating....

The interview from the transgendered lady this morning reminded me of Mr Sub and both situations got me thinking again about honesty when meeting people.  I've been writing about being honest and upfront and about the fine line between total honesty in what you want and in what you are and the need to hold back a little bit as you get to know people.

I cannot begin to imagine how difficult it must be for some people to face their own realities.  How does a lady, that used to be a man, meet a man for a relationship?  I suspect that it may be easier (especially in a bigger city) for the submissive to find a dominatrix but how socially acceptable is it?  Indeed, how difficult it must be for many....

There are many people in my life that are homosexual.  When you stop and think about it, you must realize that it must be so difficult for them also in a small community (or even in a bigger one I'm sure).  It is sad that generally speaking, we have not evolved enough as a human species, never mind as a society, to accept all of mankind.  Of course many many people accept others as they are and we cannot forget that either.

Let's take a minute, let's close our eyes and let's imagine how life would be if we fully accepted the transgendered, the dom-sub, the homosexuals, the foot fetish people etc.... Let's allow our empathy to reach a new level.  Let's put ourselves in their shoes for a minute. 

I don't know about all of you, but this little exercise makes me realize a few things.  Firstly, not to belittle my own issues, but it certainly puts my trust concerns in perspective doesn't it?  Secondly, how much better life would be if we could all accept each other as we were.

There is enough stress and sadness in the world, why must we unnecessarily pile more of it on ourselves?  Does the other person's sexual preference or orientation really make that much of a difference in our life? 

As long as there is mutual respect in any relationship, I firmly believe that we should just concentrate on our own lives and let the others live their own.....

Generally speaking, empathy leads us to accept and respect others. 

Just a thought... 

SSW :)