22, 36, 48, 55, 60!!

What is happening to me?  I never ever thought the day would come where, at the age of 45 that I would have some 22, 36, 48, 55 and 60 year old men hitting on my dating profile!  Yes ladies and gentlemen, life is good...hehe. 

Seriously though, I've obviously had to adjust the settings on my profile in order to allow the 'right' or 'appropriately' aged group to contact me.  Such an interesting concept if you stop and think about it.  Most of the older people will tell you that the age difference doesn't matter.  Some of the younger men will in fact prefer for the women to be older (that is another story though).  But in fact, having 'been there and done that', the truth of the matter is that age does NOT matter.....at first. 

As the older partner gets older though, he will reach that 'older' age much quicker than the younger partner.  He will also start feeling the aches and pains and the sometimes health difficulties associated with age creeping up on him.  The younger partner however will not be there yet.  I've had that experience with my older husband.  Yes yes yes, my mother did warn me that this would happen, but what did she know I said to myself!  HA!

Thank goodness I had a mother wise enough and kind enough to never tell me 'I told you so'.  To be absolutely clear here, the reason for my seperation from my said husband had nothing to do with age.  Yes, the age difference and health difficulties were definitely felt by him and by me, but I learnt to deal with it.  Love was present in our marriage and age was not an issue.  Money on the other hand was another story....

As I go through profiles, chat with some men, weed out the obvious and not so obvious 'sex only seeking' men I cannot help but always consider the age.  I find that if I stay within my chosen age group of 37-52 that I often naturally wander to an older man.  I've always been attracted to the older men.  Perhaps it's due to their level of maturity.  Perhaps, me being raised by a sick father has matured me to the point where people younger than me or even my own age seem too young?  Perhaps a session on the couch with my friend Freud is in fact in order? 

I seriously doubt that there is a need for deep analysis here (this from yours truly who thrives on deep analysis).  Whatever the cause of me being attracted to older men is of no consequence.  Some women are attracted to men with piercings and hair down to their butts.  If that is their 'thing', go for it I say....  I seriously doubt that they are questioning their motives for liking these attributes.  So why should I be in deep analysis or therapy for being attracted to a man that is older?  Hmmmm, let's think about that?

Life is short.  Way too short.  Shorter as you get older too.  Do I actually stop and limit my choices because of a ten year difference as opposed to an eight year difference?  Where do I draw that line?  I honestly do not know....  the weird thing is, it just hit me right now that I'm truly baffled by this question. 

I just finished talking on the phone to my bff (best friend forever for you non computer geeks) about me giving the boot from the dating site to a man 10 years my senior.  A man I found appealing, intelligent and kind.  Did I do the wrong thing?

This writing stuff is proving to be quite insightful for me.  I'm coming up with even more questions when in fact the purpose of this blog was to come up with more answers!

Perhaps now is the time to pull out my old adage 'that if it is meant to be it will happen'.  Yeah, that's the one that always makes me feel better.  Let's go with that one for now.....hmmm....

signed: a once again deep in thought and full of questions SSW.....  :)