When I first met Mr Confident (seems like one year ago now for some reason), I was having trouble 'letting go'. I could not let myself go and start to trust. I knew I needed time and I have to admit that a few times, I almost backed off and thought of running the other way.
Thankfully Mr Confident saw right through this. For some reason, this man can read my mind. He saw that I was having difficulty in letting go and in relaxing and trusting him so he simply offered me some sound advice. He said 'instead of letting go of something, just add me on to your life and what needs to be let go, will go.....'
Pretty wise advice. It worked. Now, with a new add on, I'm finding that I'm letting go of the non essential things. I THOUGHT that I had a good balance in life. However now I realize that this balance was a little off.... I will explain this in another entry at another time....
I have my ups and downs with myself, however I am getting better. At one point, I was doubting several things about myself and my involvement. Mr Confident simply hugged me and told me that he was not letting me go and that he would never allow me to push him away. His words were 'I won't run away from your pushing, I will run right into it.'
Thankfully we both communicate very well......
I have found myself a Mr Confident that will /is become /becoming my Mr Right.... No, we are not perfect, but we certainly seem perfect for each other....
In letting go of the non important stuff (that I'm learning from Mr Confident), I'm realizing that in order to be whole in a relationship that I must redefine my balance. Not only do I now need to balance my son in this equation (and so far so good I think), but I need to redefine balance for myself.
I'm slowly letting go of a very rigid routine (even on holidays) and I'm learning to spend quality time with the two men in my life who each want my attention.
Thankfully, Mr Confident has a young adult son of his own so he understands this. He is fantastic with my son and is slowly penetrating his trust..... He knows what he is doing and is proving to be Mr Confident with a teenager also. I am oh so thankful for this....as you all know, if my son would not be comfortable with a man in my life, it would make a relationship impossible.
So here I am, I'm discovering my new best friend. I'm communicating well with him, laughing with him and we both completely enjoy each other's company at all times.
Mr Confident and I are both learning to allow the other to help out with every day things. That in itself is a big lesson for two independent people. We are both learning to let go of things, each having different things to let go but each learning to rely on the other one to do so.....
Now THAT is a big lesson..... I'm letting go and it feels pretty good and pretty secure.....
In letting go, I'm redefining balance for myself... .
Who would have thought that I was off in my balance? Wow...not me...
Signed yours truly, learning to let go of the non important stuff....
SSW :)
Dear SSW
ReplyDeleteI am very happy for you. You are a million miles from your previous posts. So happy you didn't give up on finding and trusting you would find a good man for you.
It's also good to hear your son is accepting of Mr. Confident. It is difficult for our children to switch their balance also, move over a little for the new person, let go of their hold, trust him/her. They can be brutal in their commentary. One mistake that I made (a big one)in my past... I was so happy to find someone who gave me attention and love that I didn't pay attention to my children's concerns, attributing them to their not wanting to share me, not wanting someone else to take their place. I didn't listen to their or my own bells. Not saying you should for a second start doubting Mr. Confident. You're right, trust and shifting in balance is essential.
Enjoy!
Confucious says
so pleased for you... remember the friendship and giggles will brighten each day and build a strong foundation for a solid future.
ReplyDeleteThank you both for your comments. I am very aware of my son's reaction and so is Mr Confident. We are both keeping a close eye on it. The other night, Mr Confident was busy with a few things and he had promised my son and I to cook. When I offered a solution, he simply said, you are my priority and no one else and I have a kid (referring to my son) that needs feeding..... He didn't even think twice about the comment. Made me smile and secure in knowing that my son's reaction is as important to him than it is to me.....
ReplyDeleteWe are having laughter and giggles and our friendship is already very strong.
We are still learning to know each other and I am still taking it one day at a time....
Thank you both for your comments!
SSW :)