Friendship: A friendship is a bond between two or more people. For the sake of this entry, let's talk about the friendship between a couple. Funny enough, I'm an expert on friendships. I've been blessed with being surrounded by lots of friends and I have my very own special friends or bff if you wish. Best friends forever are indeed special friends!
Now, I'm in the process of developing another relationship and having another kind of bff. This bff though is different than all others I've ever had. It is the development of a deep friendship with a man. We do everything together as 'girlfriends' do, except....well he is not a girl (lol). It's neat really! We laugh and joke and tease and we also go for walks and shop and talk non stop.....almost as much as two women would.
I'm not 100% sure but I think that this is a very good sign in a 'couple' relationship. In fact, studies show that a couple that is also friends have a stronger relationship that lasts longer. I guess it's the concept of not only loving someone but just as importantly liking them too...... I'm very happy to be developing a strong friendship with Mr Confidence.
Romance: Romance is the show of emotional love. It is a way to develop and to show the emotional attachment one has for the other.
In the past entries, I've often bashed the romance. I've always associated the romantic gestures as being a way for the man to get what he wants sexually. I'm now seriously eating my words. I never thought that the day would come....
Oh, I was right in thinking that romantic men who are truly romantic for the sake of being romantic are not that common (that is what I've found and it is also what my girlfriends tell me), however, I have found me a truly and purely romantic man (life is rough - ha)!
What does romance do? True romance tells me that the other person is willing to do anything to please and to make the other partner feel special.
More importantly, the true romancer does not expect the other to reciprocate anything.....not even sex.... this is a big eye opener for me. Not only that another person is willing to do these beautiful romantic gestures just for the sake and the fun of doing them but that nothing is expected in return.
In fact, in my case, there is a look of confusion on Mr Confident's face if there is a mention of romance always being associated with sex. In his eyes, the two do not necessarily coincide.
Mr Confident has often told me that men in general do not know how to really treat a lady with the romance, the love and the attention that they truly deserve.
Hey, who am I to argue with him?
I have to admit that it is refreshing to see and especially to feel. Believe me, I don't take the romantic acts for granted and I cherish each and everyone one of them. Whether it be kissing under a big tree when the sudden rain storm chases us on our walk or whether it be the sudden impulsive slow dances in the kitchen, or even the phone call in the middle of the day from work to express the love and the thankfulness to have found each other.....I will take it all....
Many people have expressed how they are happy for me and how much I deserve this. I've now started to agree with them! You're damn right I deserve this!!! :) Everyone does really.....
Confidence: Mr Confident's confidence is a bit confusing to me at times.
I'm always surprised at his show of confidence in everything in life. It is not a cockiness that I am seeing but really a vision of positivity.
Mr Confident does not understand why I worry about this and that. He often tells me to relax and to get out of my head (hmmm, he knows me really well in such a short time).
Thing is, I'm a positive person also but I tend to be analytical (yes, I know that you are all shocked) and he isn't. I tend to question everything and he doesn't. He just lets things be without much analysis.
As mentioned before, we do compliment each other though. Yes, I'm learning to relax and to slowly get out of my head, but Mr Confident is quickly finding out that when I analyze and organize that things get done in a serious way. Yes, he laughs at my lists but he admits that things get done....
The confidence surrounding me is teaching me to trust. I'm not sure why or how, but I do know that there is a lesson of trust happening.
Mr Confidence is truly not concerned about my 'what ifs' and my analysis of most things. He listens and comforts and hugs and assures me that everything will fall into place with time. He does not chastise me for having those thoughts and he never makes me feel bad about them.
Mr Confidence is a very very patient man. Frankly, he is more patient with me than I am with myself. I get on my own nerves at times. He chuckles and hugs me and tells me he loves me.
What else can I do but to simply relax?
I'm with my new best friend....
A romantic best friend.....
Who is teaching me to trust through confidence and love.....
Who am I to argue with this? What is there to fight?
Signed yours truly, slowly but surely getting out of her head.....
SSW :))
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